Book Review: Sociopath: A Memoir (2024). Patric Gagne, PhD.

Years ago, I read and reviewed The Sociopath Next Door (2005) by Martha Stout, an eye-opening survey of sociopathy by a clinical psychologist with a career specialty in treating subjects with this condition. From that book, I learned that sociopathy is generally characterized by the lack of normal human empathy towards others, along with a lack of moral inhibitions and remorse. It is usually accompanied by a range of anti-social behaviors, and is believed to exist in about 4% of the human population, a figure which appears to be relatively consistent across different ethnic groups.

I have remained interested in the topic ever since, the more so throughout the first and now second Trump administrations, during which sociopathic behavior and its extreme adverse effects on other people have been on daily public display in the Oval Office, and from other major figures within the administration and the MAGA Republican Party. 

For that reason, when I saw reviews of Dr. Patric Gagne’s book Sociopath: A Memoir last year, I knew I would have to read it. It seemed almost unbelievable that an actual sociopath would not only publicly confess to having this condition, but would be willing to write a book-length autobiography about herself, describing what all she had done, and what she had felt or not felt about it.

Dr. Gagne tells a remarkable and even sympathetic story about her life and condition. She doesn’t hide who she is, and many of the shocking things she’s done in the course of growing up and slowly gaining insight into herself. She describes stabbing a classmate as a second grader with a pencil (one of the few transgressions for which she got in trouble), and a habit she developed early on of breaking into neighbors’ houses, scouting them and hanging out in them while the owners were away. She admits to stealing, lying and enjoying getting away with things she knew were not socially or legally acceptable. And she does confess to a lack of remorse or empathy for others.

She was also very smart. Her intelligence helped her do well in school, as well as helping her learn to conceal her lack of empathy and her deceitful behaviors from most other people. Of course, her parents and family eventually figured out that something wasn’t right with her, but she was bright and high-functioning, as many sociopaths are.

At the time she was growing up, there wasn’t yet a huge awareness or large body of psychological research on sociopathy. What little information there was tended to be focused on criminal psychopaths and older people who were institutionalized, which didn’t help her understand why and how she was different from her family members, and others she encountered at school and in the neighborhood.

This is an important and fascinating story of how a gifted sociopathic woman tried to cope with her lack of empathy and inability to connect with people around her emotionally, and to understand the traits that are hallmarks of her condition. She takes us through her childhood of maladaptive behaviors, her encounters with therapists as an adolescent, and ultimately the fortuitous connections she made at university that allowed her to begin to study and research sociopathy as a  college student and then an academic.

One particularly interesting part of her story was her description of a sort of “pressure” in her head that from an early age drove her to commit anti-social and forbidden acts, which were the only way she knew as a child to relieve this pressure that would build up inside her head. As she grew older, she slowly began to find alternative techniques she could use to relieve this pressure, and teach herself not to act out as a remedy to her inner drive to misbehave.

Eventually, in her own determination to figure out how to fit into normal society, and how to avoid doing “wrong” even though she didn’t feel any empathy or remorse herself, she gained the credentials as a psychologist (including her PhD) that allowed her to counsel and treat other sociopaths, and do social and psychological research on the condition.

Amazingly, Dr. Gagne also found love with a partner, built a community of friends, and had children she cares for and loves. She tells the story of those relationships, how they began, the troubles she encountered in maintaining them, and lessons she learned along the way that helped her fit in and be successful, despite the void in her where caring and empathy should have been.

She also has found meaning in a professional life devoted to helping other people like herself adapt to what she believes is another form of neurodiversity, and find ways to fit into the larger human community that fears and despises them.

I was truly impressed by her account, her intellect and her insights. And I believe she is sincere, honest and well-meaning, although none of those attributes are ordinarily characteristics of sociopathic personalities.

On the other hand, I couldn’t avoid the feeling that she and her story are a sort of black swan event. I hope she is successful in treating others with this same condition, and admire all she has done and accomplished, while also maintaining deep reservations that the vast majority of sociopaths among us will ever travel the relatively hopeful and constructive path she found for herself.

It would take many more success stories like hers to convince me that we would ever be wise to let down our individual and collective defenses against these wolves among us. And now watching the rise of a whole political party and movement in America, led by obvious sociopaths who obey no rules or laws, clearly enjoy inflicting fear and violence on others, and show absolutely no remorse for their crimes is not helping to assuage my fears about the threats that sociopaths continue to pose to the rest of us.

Nevertheless, this well-written and highly readable memoir is an important contribution to our understanding of the sociopathic condition and the people who have it. It is a useful counterpoint and alternative perspective to books like The Sociopath Next Door, one informed by living with the condition and describing it from the inside. Highly recommended.

TV Review: The Tragically Hip: No Dress Rehearsal. On Amazon Prime (2025).

New readers of mine on The Memory Cache, and now on Substack, may not be aware that as a lifelong amateur rock musician and music fan myself, I love reading about and watching videos about bands and rock stars that I like. When I discover a new gem of music lore, whether book, movie or TV, I devour it, and if it’s good, I’ll share it with my readers.

I’ve recently read two important and excellent rock biographies, and I hope to review them soon. But today I want to focus on an unexpected rock documentary I discovered by accident about a band I’d almost never heard of before.

The documentary (in four episodes) is about a Canadian band called The Tragically Hip. When I saw it on the Amazon Prime show lists, I was really curious, since it’s not often that you hear of a major rock documentary about a band that’s never even been on your radar.

This documentary pulled me in right from the start.  It begins by tracing the five band members as teenagers in their homes in the modest-sized Canadian city of Kingston, Ontario in the early 1980s, and describes how the eventual members met and started playing music together in high school. We are introduced to each of the members, including Gord Downie, the lead singer; Rob Baker, lead guitar; Gord Sinclair, Bass; Paul Langlois, rhythm guitar; and drummer Johnny Fay.

As the documentary unfolds, we meet other incidental characters, such as their several managers and producers, family members, and a variety of their devoted fans offering commentary, including famous Canadian actors like Dan Akroyd and Will Arnett,  and even former Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, who was a dedicated fan.

We learn the whole story of how the Tragically Hip slowly started learning how to write songs, record best-selling records, and build an intensely  loyal following by playing great live shows in an endless string of small clubs and venues in towns across Canada. As their music began to gain a larger following across Canada, they gradually played larger and larger venues, eventually becoming a huge super-group that played arena tours, and ultimately was widely recognized as "Canada's band".

In the course of the four episodes, there are of course interview clips with all the band members, offering reminisces and perspectives on everything they went through together. In many ways, it’s similar to documentaries I’ve seen about other great bands and rock artists, like Bruce Springsteen, Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers and Pearl Jam. Long-lived epic rock bands tend to go through many similar stages in the life cycle of the bands and their members, starting with their youthful experiences and early creativity, the deliberate processes and the flukes of band formation, the recording, songwriting, touring, the eventual families and friendships that develop and sometimes fall apart, and so on. The Hips’ long career together from the early 1980s through 2016 has all of those familiar rock star story elements. 

But I also noticed some special and unique aspects to the Tragically Hip’s story that were especially moving and appealing. Perhaps the most important part of the story was about love: their love for each other, and the close friendships of the five band members, the love they showed for their fans, and the love the fans and the Canadian nation ultimately felt for them.

Nothing drove that home like the sad and surprising twist in their story, which was Gord Downie’s diagnosis and losing struggle with brain cancer. As the lyricist and charismatic front man of the band, after thirty years in the Canadian public’s spotlight, he was a truly beloved figure, who was suddenly stricken much too early with a disease that would come for his mind, his memory and his ability to write and perform, before ultimately taking his life in 2017.

Astonishingly though, after a surgery that left him with his memory and his ability to perform seriously impaired, he and the band made the incredibly brave decision to do one more tour across Canada. Through an almost unbelievable act of will, he managed to relearn the songs and endure the rigors of a final tour of sold-out arena dates. The final performance was broadcast nationally, and played to crowds in venues across Canada.

Once I had seen this story, I had to immediately go track down their albums and catalog, to get more of a sense of their music. And it’s really good! It sounds like mainstream classic rock in style, with the idiosyncratic and intriguing lyrics and voice of Gordie Downie. If I were to try to capture what it’s like, I’d say it sounds most reminiscent to me of R.E.M., with some Pearl Jam and Rolling Stones mixed in. But really, they’re their own unique sound and style.

Downie was particularly likely to choose stories from Canadian history and culture for his lyrics, part of what so endeared him to his nation’s people.  In his last years, he also wrote about and made connections with the people from some of the First Nations (indigenous) Canadian tribes.

Although the Tragically Hip did perform many times in the United States, including at Woodstock ’99, the documentary discusses a common refrain the Hip heard throughout their long career, which was “why couldn’t you make it in the States?”. Even though the members must have grown very tired of the question, in the end it didn’t seem to matter to them that much. They were a giant success in their own land, and that would seem to have been enough. And fortunately for those of us in the U.S.A. who missed them during their long career in Canada, we can still hear their music recordings and watch some of their performances on YouTube.   

The Tragically Hip: No Dress Rehearsal is a truly worthwhile rock documentary about the greatest rock band you’ve never heard of. On Amazon Prime. Highly recommended.

Book Review: The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness (2024). Jonathan Haidt.

In the course of my recent reading on the topics of the attention economy, and the effects of our society’s overload of attention-disrupting modern  technologies such as smartphones and social media, I have noticed repeated references to Jonathan’s Haidt’s book The Anxious Generation as an important contribution to the conversation.

After reading it, I understand why people keep citing this book and the author’s insights into the problems we are facing as a result of social media and the rise of the attention economy. It’s an exhaustive and impressive look at a huge problem we now face, one that perhaps wasn’t even that apparent to many of us until now.

The problem that Haidt sets out to first demonstrate and then explain is the disastrous effect on the mental health of the children of Gen Z, especially as pre-teens and early adolescents, from the almost overnight adoption of smartphones and social media apps in the period from 2008 (when the Apple iPhone was first released) until the present.

What Haidt claims is that we (as a society) have been unintentionally running a vast social and psychological experiment on the Gen Z cohort of kids, an experiment which has resulted in a verifiable epidemic of mental illness among these children. The main symptoms are increased depression and anxiety in our young people, the first humans to grow up in the age of smartphones and social media apps.

He calls this experiment “the Great Rewiring”. Many people have already drawn connections between social media, the internet, the attention economy and a variety of obvious related negative consequences to our social and political life. What’s new and unique here is that Haidt recognized and focused on a specific subset of this larger set of contemporary societal problems. His topic is why smartphones and social media are having a particularly devastating impact on our children.

The book is divided into four sections. In the first section, the author draws on extensive and detailed medical and social science research, especially longitudinal studies of children’s mental health in the U.S. and abroad, to prove clearly that pre-teen and teen mental health has deteriorated massively during the early years of the smartphone age, and to prove the correlation with the onset of social media apps on smartphones. 

In the second section, he talks about the nature of childhood, what its social and psychological needs and phases are under both healthy and thwarted developmental conditions, and how and why our society as a whole is not giving children what they need to grow into healthy and happy adults.

In the third section, Haidt shows in great detail the harms that flowed from what he calls switching to “phone-based childhoods”, and the rapid switch we made to that new type of childhood in the era of 2008 to 2020 or so.

An important distinction he highlights is the difference between the “embodied” childhoods that children have always had, where their experiences and learning are naturally centered in their own bodies and their “in-person” relationship to the physical world, versus the “disembodied” phone-based childhood of today, where their minds and attention are engaged for most of the day with the virtual world, while their bodies remain  inactive.

He also explores four crucial and specific areas of harm to children’s psychological and emotional development that have resulted from the phone-based childhood: sleep deprivation, social deprivation, attention fragmentation and addiction. In doing so, he provides many studies and statistics to show how smartphones and social media use by  children specifically cause these developmental disruptions.  

In the fourth part of the book, the author examines some of the challenges of trying to undo the damage we’ve done, and how we might reverse the social behavior, laws and assumptions that have led to much of the harm that has resulted from ubiquitous smartphone and social media use by children.

This book is rich in analysis and insights into child development, and how changing social and technological conditions have impacted how children grow and learn, both for better and for worse. For example, he presents a surprising picture of how boys and girls (in general) have both been negatively impacted by the changing conditions of childhood in the online age, but (again, in general) in different ways.

As he describes and demonstrates, because girls tend to be more drawn toward socializing with their peers, to show more desire for group membership, and to have a stronger drive for social relationships and in-group status during puberty than boys do, social media apps on smartphones have tended to play the dominant role in girls’ "phone-based childhoods", and the most psychologically destructive one.

The constant need to curate personal brands, focus on making oneself look beautiful and sexy, say the right things in posts to win approval from a faceless crowd of possible critics, contend with online trolling and predators, and try to keep up with the impossible beauty and fashion standards of online influencers, are some of the examples of the exhausting and demoralizing process of being a young girl on social media that Haidt describes.  

For boys, though, Haidt suggests their more individual focused drive toward outwardly directed action and activity in puberty, rather than on socializing and in-group status, has tended to lead them much more toward heavy involvement in online gaming and pornography. Those online activities by boys actually showed up earlier, in the 1990s, before the age of social media, and have tended to increase many boys’ social isolation.

These two online activities harm boys in different ways. Gaming encourages hyper-aggressive and anti-social behavior, and social isolation. Porn has led boys to learn to resort to the “friction-free” and risk-free viewing of an infinite supply and variety of porn as a way to cope with their budding sexual urges and fears, rather than spending the time and taking the emotional risk of learning how to actually interact with potential romantic and sexual partners in the real world. This can leave them ill-equipped for developing healthy relationships, which in turn often leads to depression, anger and misogynistic behavior.

Of course, these are only sex-based tendencies, not absolutes. Boys use social media too, and girls play online games and sometimes view porn. The types of problems and dysfunctions caused by the different online options readily available on smartphones apply to both sexes. Still, the generalizations are reflected in data from studies of teen online behavior, and are useful for understanding the different relative risks and problems for each sex. The main point is that the adverse effects of a “phone-based childhood”, such as lower self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, loneliness, and feelings of worthlessness and pointlessness are likely to harm both girls and boys.

But there is another main thread (and causative factor) running through The Anxious Generation in parallel with the author’s focus on the disruptions caused by social media and smartphones. Haidt contends that the evolution of television as a mass media, along with cable news and the internet, have led to overly protective parenting practices and social norms that are increasingly at odds with what children need (and have always needed) to grow up to become strong, emotionally healthy and resilient adults.

He argues that our mass media and social media have created a pervasive fear for parents about the risks to children from child abduction, pedophilia, sex trafficking and all the other perils of the world, fears that he contends are out of proportion to the actual risk. This constant media-driven amplification of our fears about children’s safety has led to parents becoming increasingly unwilling to allow children the level of freedom they need to explore, to take risks, and to spend enough time alone and with their peers figuring things out for themselves, as has been customary throughout human history.

He invites older readers in particular to remember how we grew up, and the amount of freedom we had to roam our neighborhoods, to make mistakes and occasionally get a little hurt, to play alone and with friends by ourselves, and to organize our own activities and entertainment unsupervised by adults from an early age. He then contrasts that with today’s world of helicopter parenting, play dates under constant watchful parental eyes and guidance, and youth sports organized and run by parents rather than the kids.

This crucial concept, which he credits to his friend and collaborator Lenore Skenazy and her influential book Free-Range Kids (2009), asserts that the current super-protective practices and social norms around what children can and can’t do only began to develop in the 1980s and 1990s, but have now reached a point of restrictiveness on children’s free play and exploration which is extreme compared to the rest of human history, and detrimental to normal child development.

Haidt then makes the further connection that these recent changes in parenting norms and exaggerated fears about child safety roughly coincided with the arrival of smartphones and social media use by this same generation of children (basically Gen Z), who now aren’t allowed to play and roam on their own as older generations were. With these ahistorical new limits placed on their play time and opportunities for play in the physical world, these kids have been pushed even more toward the “disembodied” smartphone and online apps that further undermine their self-confidence and resilience. This  has increased their feelings of isolation and pointlessness, and accelerated the crisis of anxiety and depression they are now experiencing as a cohort.

Some people might want to dismiss all this as just the latest “moral panic” about new technologies and social change. I don’t believe that’s an accurate conclusion. Haidt makes many helpful and insightful observations, offers valid contrasts and comparisons, and makes helpful  recommendations throughout, all based on the body of mental health studies and longitudinal data he cites.

This is a long and dense book, with a large list of footnotes and references. I’ll admit that it wasn’t always the easiest read, but it was one of the more impactful and influential books I’ve come upon lately. And he does also offer solutions. In the end, if you could skip to his conclusions, they would be along the following lines.

First, kids should not have smartphones or social media accounts until they’re sixteen. Their brains and psyches are simply not yet prepared to withstand the psychological and physiological manipulation engineered into social media apps.

Second, students should not have access to smartphones in school. They’ll learn a lot more without them, but also will be happier spending the time at school with their friends, learning to navigate social life in person, and developing the skills and self-confidence to be functional people in the real world.

Third, parents, teachers and leaders should use collective action to change social norms, and to avoid having to try to devise individual or one-family solutions to the hard problems of how to support children’s free play opportunities and rights, as well as control their smartphone, internet and social media use. Haidt provides good examples of tactics that have worked for groups of people who have begun to move the needle on some of these problems, by working together with other parents and educators in their social circles and communities.

Finally, let kids play and explore the world more from an early stage in their lives, without as much constant close adult supervision. Let them take some risks. Of course, parents have to make informed and appropriate adult decisions about how much risk and freedom is okay for their child at each stage of development, but they should resist the idea that children need to be under constant parental control and supervision every minute.

The Anxious Generation is an outstanding work exploring the distressed state of childhood and children’s mental health today. It probes the causes and unique challenges faced by parents, educators and policy makers in the age of mass media, the internet, the smartphone, and most especially the social media apps that are engineered to capture,  retain and exploit the attention of immature young minds. Even after my long synopsis here, there’s a great deal more to be learned and considered from reading this book. Very highly recommended.

One incidental note: Jonathan Haidt is an active writer on Substack, where he continues to provide useful ideas and updated information on the topics covered in this book.

Book Review: The AI Con: How to Fight Big Tech’s Hype and Create the Future We Want (2025). Emily M. Bender and Alex Hanna.

I’ve been doing quite a bit of reading lately on the topic of AI (Artificial Intelligence). AI is naturally interesting to me as a former IT and tech person, but also because its apparent rapid development, economic and employment impacts and its social policy implications are so much in the news at the moment. I have two or three more new books on this topic on my library list and bookshelf at the moment, but today I want to discuss one I’ve already read.

The book is entitled The AI Con: How to Fight Big Tech's Hype and Create the Future We Want by Emily M. Bender and Alex Hanna. Dr. Bender is a professor of Linguistics, and affiliate faculty in Computer Science and Linguistics at the University of Washington, who often consults with domestic and international organizations on understanding "AI" technologies. Dr. Hanna is Director of Research at the Distributed AI Research Institute, and a lecturer at the School of Information at UC Berkeley.

This book is a dense, thorough critique of the entire field of "AI", coming at it from many different levels and angles. It discusses the financial and political motivations of AI’s main proponents, its foundation in intellectual property theft, and the essential fraudulence of the hype that what has been created in these software products is "intelligence". It compares the hype around AI to other tech bubbles of the past, and discusses both the need and some methods for resisting the inclusion of AI features in many of our common computer and internet applications.

The book explores many of the adverse effects on society that can be expected from further implementations of AI in many arenas, including job automation and job loss, misplaced legitimization of discriminatory social policies, climate change impacts from massive data center requirements, destructive effects on many types of careers and human creative endeavors, and many more.

I mentioned in another review recently that I have some skepticism and doubt about the current clamor over AI and all the things it can do. This book clarifies and supports my uneasiness over much of what the public has been hearing lately about AI from the wealthy tech moguls who are promoting it.

One interesting dynamic the authors describe is the way the tech leaders seem to fall into two opposing camps about the promise and perils of AI. There are the “boomers” (or accelerationists), who claim that AI will deliver untold wealth, intellectual capacity and scientific benefits to humanity in the very near future, which is why we must do whatever it takes to develop it quickly. And then there are the “doomers”, who make much of their belief that AI will soon reach the “Singularity”, where the machines will outstrip humanity’s ability to  reason, and may then consign us all to the dustbin of history, as in the Terminator films.

What the authors note about these two camps is that they both tend to be largely made up of people who are within the small circles of rich high-tech corporate leadership. In fact, the two conflicting views of AI’s risk/reward profiles are often present in the same people.

In one breath, they argue that they need to go all-in quickly on investing in and developing AI as fast as possible, for all the positive benefits they foresee. Then they turn around and say that they are the only ones who can be trusted to protect us from the potential disastrous AI outcomes they fear. Sam Altman and Elon Musk are prime examples of this sort of warring visions within one person, with their self-serving rationalizations for going ahead and doing whatever they want to do, despite all the dire risks to humanity they’ve predicted.

Both the book authors are active in the research fields of AI, and are not blind to the enormous potential economic and social benefits that may result from AI developments. At the same time, they see right through the breathless claims of the AI proponents, which is that AGI – Artificial General Intelligence, or machines that can think as humans do – is just around the corner.

They point out that this claim about impending AGI has been made repeatedly for over fifty years, and they share some of the history of that. But as they explain, the technical approach behind current generative AI (like ChatGPT), based on large language models and neural networks, is still basically a parlor trick, seemingly displaying magical “intelligence” that is in fact produced by an inanimate but sophisticated prediction engine.

AI doesn’t think, and it doesn’t feel, according to the authors, and they contend that with current models and approaches, it’s not likely to do so anytime soon. What generative AI does do is leverage existing human intelligence, creativity, art and information stored as data to seemingly “create” new text and images, based on content taken without compensation from the many people  who originally created it.

This is not intelligence, say the authors – it is merely theft and repurposing on a colossal scale. And it is theft that allows those who own and control the vast computing resources needed for AI tools to function, to profit and extract great value from the fruits of human creativity and labor they’ve stolen from others, and used to train their AI models. 

One of the most telling points the authors make is that an unacknowledged but very high priority of the AI moguls seems to be to use these smart machines to eliminate costly humans from the workforce. Everyone knows by now that AI is a potential threat to many existing jobs, especially in the white collar service industries, but that’s not something the AI hype merchants want to emphasize. Or so I assumed, until on a recent trip to San Francisco I saw billboards advertising a new AI product with the slogan “Never hire a human again”. Perhaps in the current political moment, these tech leaders no longer even feel they need to hide their desire to take away peoples' livelihoods for the sake of their bottom lines. 

After thoroughly pulling back the veil on all the hype, the lies and flawed reasoning behind the “AI con”, the authors lay out some reasonable if limited ideas for how to resist the AI juggernaut. For example, they suggest not using AI agents to query for information when a simple web search would give comparable results.

The authors suggest this for several reasons: first, because widespread refusal to use new AI products might slow investment and further development in them; second, because these AI agents have vastly greater environmental and climate change overhead associated with using them compared to a simple web search; and third, because the AI answers might be made up, and don’t tend to provide their sources, or any attribution for how they arrived at their conclusions.

With a web search, you know where the information is coming from, and can draw your own conclusions about its validity, reliability and truthfulness. You also might discover some unexpected but valuable information farther down the page of search results. With an AI agent search, you have to just take it on faith that the AI didn’t make it up, but which it often does (popularly known as “hallucinating”, although the authors reject that term for its implicit hint of actual machine cognition).

Of course, as the authors are aware, resisting the hype and the promotional campaigns being waged for AI by the leaders of our largest tech companies will be difficult. And there is a need not to throw out all AI and advanced computing innovations that might truly be beneficial to humanity, although how lay people are supposed to distinguish between what is worthwhile and what is wasteful or dangerous among the many new AI products being released is hard to know.

The ultimate message the authors seem to hope readers will take away from their in-depth presentation is that if we’re going to have AI technologies at all, they need to be limited, regulated and well-controlled, and in the service of humanity’s greater good and noblest aspirations, not the science fiction-based fantasies and greed of a small group of wealthy tech entrepreneurs.

That all makes sense to me. Highly recommended.  

Personal Note: My new song "Unknown Land" is now available!

For those readers who also follow or are interested in my musical adventures, I'm very happy to be able to share the good news that I released my first new song since late 2023 today. It's called "Unknown Land". As you might guess, it's an attempt to address through a song some of my emotions and thoughts about our present moment.

If you would like to hear it, you can click the link on The Memory Cache site to access my YouTube channel, where there is a lyric video for the new song. 

You can also just find me and my songs (including this new one) by searching for "Wayne Parker" on any popular music streaming service or platform, like Spotify, Apple Music, Amazon Music, Pandora and so on. Make sure it's me -- there are several of us Wayne Parkers out there on some of the music streaming services. 

As with all my songs thus far, I wrote the song, and sang and played most of what you're hearing. Special thanks to my sound engineer Matt Taylor at Echo Lake Studio, who mixed and mastered the song, and added electronic drums, backup vocals and a very tasteful guitar track.  

I hope you like it! And if you do, please share it with your friends! Thanks.

Book Review: Careless People: A Cautionary Tale of Power, Greed and Lost Idealism. Sarah Wynn-Williams (2025).

Several years ago, I read and reviewed an excellent book from 2016 about Silicon Valley and particularly Facebook called Chaos Monkeys: Inside the Silicon Valley Money Machine  by Antonio Garcia Martinez. It was a memoir by a former Wall Street trader who moved to California around 2010, and jumped into the high tech investment world. In addition to many interesting and appalling stories of the people and bad behavior he encountered along the way, Martinez’s story stood out for its clear presentation of how the electronic markets in personal data for advertising work at places like Facebook, Google, Twitter and Instagram, and what it’s like to work in those high-tech corporate environments. 

With Sarah Wynn-Williams' splendid new tell-all memoir about life in the upper ranks of Facebook’s leadership, Careless People, we now have an even more gripping, often shocking but highly readable insider’s account of the people who have built and now control the world’s most powerful social media company, and the lawless and corrupt practices that have made Facebook and Meta the destructive forces they have become in modern society. Some of these outrages have already been investigated and publicized in the news media, but Wynn-Williams’ story takes it to a whole new level of factual detail and disillusioning personal experience.

 

The author’s origin story is an unusual one. The childhood survivor of a near-fatal shark attack in her native New Zealand, she grew up to become an idealistic young lawyer and diplomat who discovered Facebook around 2009. She was immediately enthralled by the possibilities the social media app presented for promoting open communications between people and communities, resisting authoritarian regimes (as seemed to be happening during the “Arab Spring” at that time), and generally being a new and important force for social good in the world.

 

With that hopeful and idealistic perspective, she spent more than a year trying to find an “in” at the relatively new Facebook company, so she could pitch her idea for a job she wanted to do there: director of global public policy. At first, she made little progress, because the top management hadn’t even considered the idea that Facebook had the potential to run into many kinds of legal conflict, complex policy issues and resistance from political leaders in countries around the world. But eventually, through sheer persistence, she was able to talk herself into the job she had invented, and began to work regularly with Facebook’s top leadership, including Mark Zuckerberg, Sheryl Sandberg and others. 

 

As she describes it, Wynn-Williams began filled with hopes for herself and her new career, imagining a useful role at Facebook where she could use her training and experience in international law and diplomacy to help make the company and its products a force for positive change around the world. With these goals in mind, she began encouraging Mark Zuckerberg to start trying to make personal connections with important global leaders, in order to create favorable conditions for promoting Facebook’s apps and the company in countries around the world.

 

She brought her diplomatic skills and experience to bear, trying to set up meetings, handle protocol, and prep the boss for what should be discussed in those meetings with world leaders and other CEOs. It turned out that wasn’t so easy, since Zuckerberg at this early stage was uncomfortable meeting new people, hated politics, didn’t think he needed to know anything or be prepared for these meetings in advance, and basically wanted someone else to deal with it all. Nevertheless, Wynn-Williams kept trying.

 

She also became part of the circle of young women staffers around Sheryl Sandberg. She soon found herself  recruited along with other female staff to do non-company work promoting Sandberg’s book Lean In, helping to manage all the attendant glory and publicity Sandberg received as a supposed feminist success story, the powerful professional woman and visionary corporate leader who could balance work and family, and “have it all”. But the author soon realized that Sheryl could “have it all” mainly because of her stupendous wealth, her paid full-time childcare staff, and her ability at work to compel others to do things for her, without regard for the toll that might take on her assistants, or the appropriateness of having Facebook pay for these personal services for her.

 

What makes Wynn-Williams’ story so compelling are the harrowing daily personal experiences and interactions she describes, and the insights she has on what she had to do to try to survive and succeed in this toxic work environment. She describes a work culture where having children and families is something to be essentially hidden from supervisors, where insane work hours and demands on personal time are normal expectations of employees by upper management. She recounts going through several pregnancies during her time at Facebook, one with calamitous damage to her health, and reveals how her bosses still expected her to be working from home or going on foreign trips, even during her maternity leave and an extended period of physical recovery.

 

The author also gives chilling descriptions of ongoing sexual harassment, both from her male boss Joel Kaplan and from Sheryl Sandberg, who Wynn-Williams claims tried to force her to go to bed with Sandberg during a long international flight on a private jet. Wynn-Williams describes many of the things she did at work for years to try to stay out of trouble and under the radar of top leadership, while also trying to report and resist wrongdoing, whether it was about sexual harassment, or her repeated objections to the business’s policies and practices when they appeared to be immoral, corrupt, illegal or just plain stupid.

 

The author confirms Mark Zuckerberg’s widely reported rage at having Facebook blamed by the press for Donald Trump’s stunning 2016 upset victory. Zuckerberg apparently felt Facebook was being unjustly accused and defamed, at least until his own managers explained to him all the powerful software and data tools for voter manipulation they had used on Trump’s behalf. He then ended up testifying in Congress, and with the support of his staff, lied about and obfuscated the company’s extensive consulting work for the Trump campaign, and its powerful effects, according to Wynn-Williams.

 

Later in the book, Wynn-Williams also delves into details of Facebook’s attempts to win its way into the Chinese market, which became one of Zuckerberg’s top priorities in his relentless quest for more customers. According to her account, the Facebook leadership appeared untroubled by what it concluded was the need to collaborate with China’s authoritarian government in providing spying capabilities against its own population, if that would advance the company’s interests. The author claims they were also perfectly willing to lie to the U.S. government about the extent of their cooperation with the Xi regime, and lie to the Xi regime about their covert attempts to penetrate the market without meeting the Chinese government’s legal requirements. She provides numerous examples to back up these claims.

 

Another shocking reveal was the fact that marketing teams at Facebook had developed advertising decks to promote their abilities to target 13-17 year old girls with signs of emotional distress (as contained in their posts) for advertising that would take advantage of the psychologically vulnerable state of those girls. Of course, when Facebook was caught out on this, and hauled before Congress to explain, the company’s leadership lied, and denied they had those capabilities. But they did, and they were promoting and selling those capabilities to customers, who wanted to advertise products like weight loss aids and beauty products to under-age girls in crisis.

 

Ultimately, after most of a decade in the upper echelons of the Facebook hierarchy, the author’s attempts to encourage Facebook to do the right things in different situations, whether in the realm of international law and policy, or in dealing with employee harassment by top leaders, ended with her being fired. None of the leaders responsible for all these problems apologized to her, or acknowledged any wrongdoing. They just got rid of her, which is of course what they are still hoping to do now, by suggesting the author is just a disgruntled fired employee with emotional problems and a “sour grapes” grudge against the company. 

 

I saw a news report that Facebook’s and Meta’s leadership really did not want this book to be published, and it’s obvious why not after reading it. It’s potentially a devastating blow to the Facebook and Meta brands, not to mention the reputations of people like Zuckerberg and Sandberg. But I’m convinced that Wynn-Williams is telling the truth about this crew of “careless people”. She paints a very believable and by-now familiar picture of the toxic high-tech corporate culture they’ve created, and shows how their vast wealth, unchecked ambition and lack of any moral compass or empathy for others on a routine basis has led them to launch these destructive social media applications out into the world, with little concern for their adverse effects on individuals or society.

 

I know there has been enough negative press and analysis about Facebook and Meta in the past few years that many people might not want to hear any more about it. But this book is essential for really understanding the extent of the cynicism, greed and corruption at the heart of Meta and its leadership, and the negative effects that has had on the politics of our time, our attention and our social lives.

 

It’s also a riveting read, and a compelling personal story of survival and endurance in the face of adversity, disillusionment and loss. Very highly recommended.   

Personal Note: The Memory Cache -- Now on Substack!

Hello, and greetings to all my friends, family and interested readers!

As you may know, since early 2022 I’ve been posting to this personal blog site, The Memory Cache. The blog contains reviews of books, movies and television I’ve consumed and enjoyed, information and opinion that I wanted to share with all of you and the world. My site recently passed 29,000 views since it began, and continues to draw new readers.

During 2024 and early this year, I spent most of my creative energies on writing Dawn to Dusk, a Storyworth memoir for my close family and friends. I have no plans to share it with a wider audience, but I wanted to let you know that this writing project and its time demands were the principal reasons I didn’t post much on The Memory Cache last year, and also have written and recorded no new music during that time.

Fortunately, that book writing project is finally completed. It’s in print now, and is being shared with those for whom it was written. Now I’m clearing the decks to resume writing more often for The Memory Cache, and also heading back into my studio to make new music. 

In conjunction with my return to more active posting on The Memory Cache, I am also now on Substack. Starting in the next few days, I will be posting all my new articles and posts (including this one) for the blog web site on my Substack account as well.

If you previously signed up to my mailing list via my music web site at Wayne Parker Music, you have been added to my Substack mailing list. Of course, if you don’t wish to receive these emails with my new articles and posts, please do avail yourself of the “Unsubscribe” button. But you’re on the list initially because you had previously indicated an interest in my creative activities.

If you think you are a subscriber, you should have received my first post (this message) as an email yesterday. If you didn't, please check your spam folder for an email from The Memory Cache at Substack, and if you find the email there, put my email address on your "safe senders" list so they won't be blocked in the future. 

If you’re not on my Substack mailing list, but would like to be, there’s now a link on this site that will take you to Substack to sign up. There’s no paywall on my posts. It’s all free, at least for now.

And now, a word about our current circumstances. When I began The Memory Cache, I didn’t plan for it to have an overtly political purpose, but of course, my reviews and the content I have chosen to write about have undoubtedly reflected my general political and emotional biases, and my reactions to the world around me.

I don’t expect that to change. Probably like most of you, I am hyper-focused on and aware of the daily onslaught of bad news for our democracy, our country’s reputation in the world, our economy, science and education, our environment and our health. Fortunately, there are many other voices, sources of valuable news and smart opinion on all this elsewhere, especially on Substack, as well as at major news outlets and advocacy organizations.

My intention is not to add directly to that coverage, but rather to continue to publicize and comment occasionally on notable intellectual and artistic content around us that can help us understand the complex and difficult problems we face, and sometimes also enjoy moments of reprieve from it all in the form of leisure and entertainment.

If you enjoy and value what I have to say on the blog and on Substack, please tell your friends, and help me build my audience.  My user/writer handle on Substack is @thememorycache. You can follow all my creative activities on Bluesky, Instagram, Facebook and YouTube at @wayneparkernotes.  And thanks for your interest!

Book Review: Chip War: The Fight for the World’s Most Critical Technology (2022). Chris Miller.

I was intrigued this morning to read an article about a growing problem in the latest iterations of new generative AI products. This problem has been recognized and widely discussed for the last several years, but apparently in many cases, it’s not being solved as the AI software and systems become more sophisticated and complex. Apparently it’s getting worse, much worse. That problem is “hallucination”, the tendency of AI systems to make up “facts” in response to queries. 

 

When I read news like that, it tends to support a gut feeling of mine that the current hype about AI and how it’s going to change everything for the better is at the very least overblown, and perhaps completely wrong, a sci-fi fantasy from our tech leaders’ childhoods that in reality could become a dystopian, dangerous nightmare, rather than a wondrous achievement for humanity. But that’s a larger topic for another time.

 

In the meantime, our current computer systems, our phones, the internet and all the electronic information technologies of our era have become indispensable resources for every aspect of our lives, at work and at play. Through the accumulated scientific knowledge and engineering of the recent past, these things all exist, and most of us take them for granted. We don’t tend to think about them that much, but perhaps we should.

 

Most of us probably don’t think about how critical computer automation has become to our survival, as more and more of our societal life support systems, our roads, our airspace, our banking system, our hospitals, our communications and so many other parts of modern society are put under computer control. Very few of us actually know much about how these things came to be, how they work, or what it takes to keep turning out the steadily more powerful automation products we all use and rely upon.

 

This is why Chris Miller’s book Chip War is the essential book for understanding many aspects of our current situation. It starts at the beginning, telling the history of the invention of the transistor, soon followed by the development of the integrated circuit (known as a “chip”), a small electronic component onto which many transistors can be printed using a highly refined photo imaging process. He also provides a clear description for the lay reader on how these inventions function, and why they are essential to the creation of computers and the internet.

 

From that necessary introduction, he then tells a much longer and more complicated story about how the initial inventions were steadily improved and disseminated around the world over the past half-century. He focuses on important individuals at each stage of development, and how certain companies and countries competed to dominate different aspects of both ongoing creation of better chip designs, and the actual production of the chips based on the designs.

 

As someone with a long history in IT and computers myself, I knew some of what was in this riveting and important book, but I learned so much more, and it was fascinating.

 

Miller talks about the different approaches taken by important countries over the decades to try to gain access to the newest and best designs and products coming out of the U.S.A. For example, he traces how the Soviet Union and then Russia after the Soviet Union’s collapse tried to simply steal the latest technology from the West, both the designs and often the chips themselves. As he explains, this has kept Russia consistently a decade behind the United States and Europe in the types and quality of chips it could produce or consume in mass.

 

In China, however, they took a different route. While trying to build up their own research and development capabilities, the Chinese focused on creating advanced manufacturing for some types of chips, especially memory chips, as well as building factories to create integrated products like circuit boards, and consumer products like PCs, laptops, and smartphones. It wasn’t that they didn’t also steal the latest Western technology whenever they could, but they did vastly more than Russia to also develop their own advanced research and manufacturing capabilities. As a result, they own or dominate some important segments of the global chip manufacturing and high-tech product market.

 

In the United States, where the technology was invented, the top companies dominated most or all aspects of creating the latest, most advanced chips for several decades. But over time, some of the premier companies were out-competed by a few companies in other countries, and merged or went out of business.

 

The United States, particularly with companies like Intel and AMD,  still retains dominance in the development of the new designs for the latest generations of chips, but several other countries now have companies in that race. In the meantime, the United States, and almost all other countries, have ceded control over the production of the most vital chips – the CPUs, or Central Processing Units that control the operations of all computers – to a single country, Taiwan, and to a single company there that has been willing to make the huge investments in equipment and facilities required to be able to produce the current and near-future generations of processor chips.

 

The story of how that happened, how the United States and its premier chip companies lost the ability to manufacture its most vital computing components after designing them is just one fascinating tale from this exhaustive history of the chip industry. And it is an absolutely vital story to know and understand, in order to better comprehend some major political issues we now face.

 

For example, knowing that Taiwan is the world’s sole source for producing the latest and best CPU chips explains why the question of China’s desire to take back control of Taiwan, and the West’s need to prevent that has become such a perennially vital national security issue for the United States. Being aware of this situation also explains why all recent American administrations have wanted to bring chip manufacturing back to the U.S.A., with only limited success.

 

Chip War is filled with these sorts of “how did we not know this?” stories and background. It also drives home as few other things I’ve read, how absolutely dependent we have become on computer chips, on the same level of importance as the oil and energy resources that drive our economy. It’s also a very enlightening history of the brilliant people, the companies and countries that have created and improved these magical little devices that are now embedded in so much of the smart environment in which we now live. Highly recommended.